by: Mrs. Robyn Kealani Hancock
When did it ever become okay to tell someone to "just get over it??”
I have heard this phrase said, taught, and even preached. I’m sure there have even been books written about it. But, just because something is spoken, taught, preached, or written about in a book doesn’t mean that it’s necessarily helpful truth.
To go around telling people to "just get over it” is probably one of the most insensitive things we could ever say to others, because in reality you are not them and you may have no idea the depth of the personal hell they have been through. "Just get over it” is not only insensitive but can also be very demeaning and even cause someone to feel like their pain does not matter. In fact, that is directly opposite of how Jesus wants any one of His children to feel.
The Bible tell us that Jesus Himself is touched by the feelings of our infirmities. If Jesus cares about the feelings of others, shouldn’t we? Or, are we above Jesus and more powerful somehow? Certainly not!
I sometimes think that being the one to say that phrase to someone else must bring with it a momentary rush or a sense of authority. But to the hearer of these words, they may only seem to be coming from a non-understanding and insensitive bully of a person. Maybe we should remember that no one is robotic and that everyone is really human. And with this flawed humanity that encapsulates each and every one of us, come a web of feelings and emotions that many spend much of their lives trying to detangle and sort out. So, the next time your tempted to say to someone, "just get over it!” stop and think and maybe try saying, "How can I help you get through this?”
Gifted as a minister and published author, Wayne Hancock has been actively serving the Body of Christ since 1987. Wayne ministers worldwide with a prophetic anointing and is able to teach the ancient scriptures with simplicity, causing them to come alive and relevant in the believer’s life today.
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